Impulsivity, Procrastination & Shame – Part I
I believe that we are brilliant beings. When I meet with clients, I am fascinated at how their minds, bodies, emotions and spirits have survived their fate. How they have created intricate coping mechanisms. How they have altered their thinking. The intelligence that exists in each and every human being needs to be honored. We don’t […]
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Moving from Shame – Sex & Sexuality
Sex is yummy. Sex is delicious. Sex is pleasure and sex is about self-love! My longing is that more and more people can revel in their sexuality. That this sacred place is filled with joy – not judgment and shame! How we feel about sex and our sexuality is a good guage with regard to […]
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The Shame of Failure
Common Beliefs about Failure are: You are a bad ____ because you failed. Failure is NOT an option. Failures are losers. If you’re not first place, you’ve failed. Why try if you might fail? Avoid failure at all costs. If you failed, you: Didn’t try hard enough. Weren’t prepared. Didn’t do the research. Weren’t organized. Weren’t […]
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Why is Slowing Down so Difficult??
I’ve always done everything fast. I make decisions fast. I eat fast. I dress fast. I shower fast. I even speak fast. You had to be fast to “survive” in my home. Being the youngest in a large Italian, Greek family – if you wanted to eat, be heard, or get a warm shower – […]
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My Longing To Live in my Heart – A Poem
Dear God Help me find the way to love Past shame and guilt and sorrow. Let me trust that my heart will bring Me joy in today and tomorrow. These things called shame and guilt Taint my soul with soot and muck. They fuel my rage, cause me to blame And keep me very stuck. […]
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“I Don’t Wanna Get Out of Bed!” – Depression, SAD, Whatever…
It’s a beautiful morning. The sun is shining through the slats in my fake wooden blinds. The pillow is over my head. My husband got out of bed a couple of hours ago. I have had nightmares – judgment, humiliation, not being prepared – night sweats. I am as tired now as when I went […]
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From Shame to Destiny – Sex, sex, sex – Part II
I was able to keep the “bad” girl (or Ginger) at bay for the first 10 years of my marriage. She might eek out a bit here and there, but I was busy. While raising small children, I didn’t have the energy for sex, let alone want more. My good boy was pretty rigid (excuse the […]
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From Shame to Destiny – SEX, Sex, sex – Part I
“Good girls do not have sex before they are married. Men are all the same. All they want is sex. Don’t let men touch you,” says my father. “I was a virgin when I married your father,” says my mother. “Boys can’t control themselves if you get them excited. Don’t TOUCH their penis! It will be […]
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Finding Your Healthy “No” – Depression & The No Current – Part III
Finding Your Healthy No – To Find Your Healthy Yes!! This is an integral part of moving from the No current to moving to the Yes current! There are three types of No’s. There is the Whiney No. There is the FY No. And, there is the Healthy No. By living and speaking your healthy […]
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Depression & The “No Current” – Part I
I went to visit a friend who was suffering from depression. While I was with them I realized that they were living in the No Current. This place of negativity, victimization, and hopelessness. It is a common place for most people. Even your most optimistic friend has some No Current in their lives. But those […]
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